No judgement – its all about perception
I heard a story – a farmer owned a very good horse, he loved the horse as his son and it reciprocated. Even the king of that kingdom was envious of the horse. He sent his messengers to the farmer stating that farmer can exchange the horse for as much as half of his state. Farmer responded – ‘I will not, does anyone sell his son/daughter?’ People told him that he did a mistake, he responded – no judgement.
In some days, the horse somehow ran away and could not be traced. People come back to the farmer and told him, you did a grave mistake by not giving it to the king, at least you could have got something in return. Now you don’t even have the horse let alone part of the kingdom. He again responded – no judgement.
In few days, neighboring kingdom waged a war on the kingdoms where the farmer lived. It resulted in a very tough situation for the kingdom (of the farmer) and king asked for all the support from his people, confiscating even cattle for supporting his army, stating there is no guarantee of returning of those materials/cattle. People again came to the farmer and told him – ‘Thank god at least your horse is not in that trouble, trust wherever it is, it is fine.’ He again responded – no judgement.
Within few days both the fighting parties announced ceasefire. Some people got their possessions back others didn’t. One fine day morning the horse came back to the farmer with an equally beautiful mare. People came to the farmer praising the horse and saying – “Thank god horse was not here during the war it would have been a problem for you as well as for the horse.” Again he responded in his trademark style – no judgement.
So, situations change and therefore our decisions could be called as right or wrong, good or bad, but in the end the frame of reference causes the concerns. Something good today could be bad tomorrow. So, judgemental thinking may result in issues. My brother told me once – no decision is right or wrong, it is how we perceive and the frame of reference makes us think whether the decision is right or wrong.
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thnx bro
Thanks Pravin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
its all about perception!!!!!!!!!!!!!111
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I too heard a slightly different version of the story- When the horse ran away, the farmer’s friends told him that he was in a bad situation. He replied, “Let’s see”. The horse eventually returned, not alone but with three other horses from the wild. The farmer’s friends couldn’t believe his luck. Now he was the owner of not one but four horses. On being told that their could be no greater happiness, the farmer said, “Let’s see”. The horses, being wild ones, eventually attacked his son causing his limbs to break. He was confined to bed for some time. The farmer’s friends as usual came to him and said that what happened to him should not have happened. And the farmer, in his characteristic style replied, “Let’s see”. Now there was a war, and all able-bodied young men of the kingdom were conscripted to fight. But the farmer’s son could not be taken because of his physical condition. The farmer’s friends once again came to him, congratulating him on his un-expected luck. The farmer said, “Let’s see”!
well i would truly agree to this..